Stick to The Facts
Early in my career during the annual review process, one of my key stakeholders did not take the time to provide me any feedback. He was responsible for any compensation adjustments, bonus allocations, potential promotions, and formally documenting my performance.
I was really hurt by his actions. When the time came for our actual discussion, I chose to tell him the impact his actions had on me. It was one of the most difficult conversations I have ever had to have professionally.
He was the CEO, and I was his EA. I was nervous and scared to “call him out”. That being said, I came prepared to the conversation and presented my thoughts in a professional, unemotional way. His response was nothing short of amazing. He really heard what I had to say, and understood why it impacted me in the way that it did.
From that moment on our working relationship thrived, and there was a newly established level of mutual respect and trust. It was a turning point in my career.
The lesson I learned that day continues to resonate with me until today.