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Linked with overall resilience, humor relieves stress and makes it easier to process and cope with unpleasant surprises and total disasters. Studies have demonstrated this effect in groups facing mountains of stress, such as combat veterans, medical students, and emergency personnel.
How you can harness humor’s soothing effects:
Feeling uncomfortable emotions? Reduce their power by turning them into jokes. Better yet, share the jokes with your group or community. This cleansing act breaks down unhealthy internalizing, aids in processing, and creates feelings of support and camaraderie in your group.
Finding yourself in the midst of a massive mess or chaos spiral? Flex your thinking to:
Some studies demonstrate a correlation between finding humor and cultivating overall positivity, suggesting they may involve the same mental muscles.
Having a hard time turning your problems into punchlines? No sweat. Just consume some humor to reap the same de-stressing benefits.
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Avoid, alter, adapt, or accept: What experts call the 4 As of stress management. Remembering these simple options can help you reduce a massive, catastrophic, insurmountable Mother of all Problems into something you know exactly how to manage with confidence.
Here’s how to unleash the As on your next big problem:
Step 1: Encounter a problem, any problem that makes you feel a little stressed
Step 2: Skip the increased pulse, back tension, and stress sweats. (None of those things are helpful.) Address the stressor head on by envisioning or writing your options for dealing with it, a.k.a. the 4 As.
Step 3: Set a timer for 5-10 minutes. This is how long you have to decide which of the As to use on your current stressor.
Step 4: Proceed accordingly.
Here’s an example:
You get to the office a little bit later than usual and find two different urgent (please-do-ASAP) requests from two different people.
You sit down and think through your options:
You decide the wisest option is to Alter your situation. You proceed with the calm certainty of a person with a plan and a mission—a person with no time to waste on stress.
Last week, you shared a glorious website mockup with some leaders in your company, requesting their feedback. You’ve been eagerly awaiting a response; you need their wisdom and clarification so you can start building this thing.
You hear the sweet, sweet chime of a new email, lunge at your computer, and open the message to find a list, a tome, of feedback in the form of questions. You feel lost, confused, and disappointed.
Now what?
You process allll the questions using this checklist:
Don’t panic. Give yourself permission to simply read through the questions at least twice, without acting on them or stressing about them. This will set you up to process them with a level head.
Answer all the questions you can. If they require follow ups, complete those and get them out of the way.
Ensure you understand each question. If you don’t, write down your clarifying questions, but set them aside for now.
Separate the questions into two groups:
Pinpoint the underlying need beneath each legitimate question. Considering where the questioner is trying to get may be more helpful than understanding precisely what they mean.
Determine the best way to answer each question. For example, should this question be addressed by deliberating as a group, can it be resolved with a little independent research, or does it require bringing in a third-party expert?
Set up a meeting to address all the questions as a group. You might feel pressured to own all the questions, but they belong to you and your collaborators and should be addressed as such. During this meeting, you can ask all the clarifying questions you wrote down earlier. Remember! The goal of this meeting is to determine next steps for each question, to get closer to and not further away from certainty. Be prepared to wrangle meandering conversations and stay on topic.
Bonus Tip: Moving forward, frame your requests for feedback in the form of almost painfully specific questions. That way, with hope, you’ll actually get more answers and fewer additional questions.
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