Life gets in the way and your living space can’t always look like it’s straight out of Architectural Digest (not that mine ever did in the first place).
But, as someone with severe OCD (and ADHD), messiness triggers a visceral reaction in me that goes beyond mere annoyance.
It’s not just a matter of aesthetics, either; the disarray creates a constant backdrop of disquiet—I can’t focus on work, personal issues, or anything other than the clutter surrounding me.
Even if it’s another room, I feel like I have eyes on the back of my head and can still sense it.
In contrast, I have friends with more severe ADHD who often seem unbothered by messiness, and are able to navigate through piles of belongings with a nonchalance that is mind blowing to me.
While ADHD and OCD brains are wired differently, the disorganized chaos on the outside can seem pretty similar.
The OCD brain is screaming “Clean this up now!” while the ADHD brain is going “Squirrel!” and getting sidetracked. (Get a more in-depth breakdown between ADHD and OCD here.)
But to an outsider, it just looks like a messy room either way.
Here are a few tips that have helped me be less messy:
- Use visual cues and containers. For OCD, having designated homes for everything can provide a sense of order. For ADHD, clear bins and labels act as visual reminders of where things belong when you get distracted.
- Set a timer. Those with OCD can use timed cleaning sessions to avoid getting stuck in perfectionistic cleaning loops. For ADHD, setting a timer for 15-20 minutes of focused decluttering can make the task more manageable.
- Reframe messiness. For OCD, remind yourself that some disarray is normal and doesn’t require an exhausting cleaning overhaul. With ADHD, cut yourself some slack – a little clutter doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it’s just part of how your brain works.
And remember—you’re not alone in this battle against clutter and intrusive thoughts.
OCD and ADHD can make even simple acts of tidying up feel like an overwhelming, anxiety-provoking chore.
But don’t be too hard on yourself.
Messiness is not a moral failing—it’s just a side effect of how your brilliant, neurodivergent brain operates.
Try to show yourself the same compassion you would a friend.
Your self-worth isn’t defined by how “together” your living space looks.
On days when the piles seem insurmountable, focus on small wins, like clearing one surface.
Celebrate those baby steps instead of fixating on what’s left undone.
You got this 💪.

Cameron (Newsletter Ops for TA)