Most people my age don’t think about being a caretaker.
At 25, my friends are focused on launching careers, going out on the town, and enjoying their freedom with few responsibilities beyond bills and rent.
But my life requires more responsibility — I share the role of primary caretaker for my grandma with my mom, a role I wouldn’t trade for anything.
My grandma is my best friend. We’ve shared many adventures and have a close bond. She’s always been there for me, so when her health declined, I didn’t hesitate to step up.
I live down the street from her, and my mom lives just across town. We take turns assisting with medication, appointments, and anything else she needs.
Recently, when my mom was away, I was the sole caretaker after my grandma’s heart surgery. While it’s a privilege to be there for her, it was exhausting. Caretaking is hard work — both physically and emotionally.
There are tough days when my grandma is frustrated and doesn’t feel good. There are days when I am frustrated too, thinking, “Can you please just trust me and let me take care of you?!”
On those days, I have to muster patience and the power of positive thinking. I constantly remind myself that I am her support, her constant. If I can stay positive, it will help her be more positive too.
But at times, my social life, responsibilities, and personal relationships take a backseat. I can’t help but get major FOMO seeing friends’ party posts on social media while I’m caring for my grandma.
That’s why it’s vital to have a strong support system. My closest friends and partner rally around me, giving me respite when I need it.
At work, my boss (Joanna) has been amazing, accommodating my need for flexibility and time off when my grandma requires my full attention. When I opened up about my caregiving duties, she was tremendously supportive and helped ease my workload.
At first, I felt guilty taking time off for appointments or to check in on my grandma, but I’ve learned you can’t feel guilty about prioritizing family.
Despite the ups and downs of my grandma’s health, it makes me appreciate the time we’ve shared. I think of this as a new adventure, even though things may look different now.
Whether we like it or not, we all get older. Our abilities and health will inevitably change.
Cherish any time you have with your older loved ones, and never take your health or abilities for granted.

Cameron (Newsletter Ops for TA)