FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Ever find yourself freaking out when your partner doesn’t text back immediately? Or you’re totally chill when you don’t hear from them for days?
Our attachment styles likely explain these ingrained relationship tendencies. Attachment theory says the bond with our primary caregivers shapes how we connect as adults.
There are four styles:
- Secure: You feel worthy of love and can healthily depend on others. As a child, your needs were consistently met with love.
- Avoidant: You avoid intimacy and are very independent. You distrust others and don’t like feeling close. Your childhood caregivers may have been distant or punishing when you expressed needs.
- Anxious: You desperately seek intimacy but constantly fear rejection. You need a lot of reassurance from your partner because your childhood bond was inconsistent.
- Disorganized: You have extreme difficulty trusting others and behave unpredictably in relationships. Your childhood caregivers themselves were sources of fear.
If you had attentive, loving caregivers you likely developed secure attachment. But if your childhood bond was strained, you may have an insecure style.
If you’re finding yourself in a category you don’t want to be in, don’t worry — you can change your style, especially with therapy.
Start by identifying your relationship patterns and their origins. Then work on communicating assertively, taking emotional risks slowly, and building self-confidence.
With awareness and effort, you can develop healthier romantic attachments. Secure relationships are possible when you understand your ingrained style.
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FOR THE BODY
Breast Cancer Awareness
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, so let’s talk about why staying on top of breast health is vital.
Breast cancer is the most common cancer among American women, except for skin cancers. About 1 in 8 women will develop invasive breast cancer over their lifetime.
The good news? Death rates have been steadily dropping thanks to earlier detection and better treatments. But early diagnosis before symptoms emerge is key.
What can you do?
- Know your risk factors like family history, reproductive history, weight, alcohol use, and breast density. Talk to your doctor about when to start screenings.
- Do monthly self breast exams to familiarize yourself with your breast landscape. Report any changes to your doctor promptly.
- Get routine mammograms. Yearly mammograms are recommended starting at age 45 for average risk women. Earlier if you have risk factors.
- Limit alcohol. The more you drink, the higher your risk. Stick to no more than 1 drink per day.
- Maintain a healthy weight. Being overweight or obese increases risk, especially after menopause.
- Ask about chemoprevention if you’re high risk. Drugs like tamoxifen can lower risk but do have side effects.
- Get any new lumps or symptoms evaluated ASAP. Common signs are thickening, swelling, dimpling, irritation, pain, discharge, and redness.
- Support others by donating to breast cancer charities or volunteering. And encourage the women in your life to prioritize breast health.
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The Challenge Bowl
The Challenge Bowl is a fun and easy way for team members to answer questions and complete short activities to deepen team bonds.
Pick one item from the Challenge Bowl each day to liven up daily meetings or run through the entire board to engage your team during virtual team lunches or happy hours.
How it Works:
- 🗣️ You’ll need a logged-in facilitator to reveal hidden frames
- 📝 Each team member takes turns selecting a challenge (numbered sticky note from the bowl). Tip: Use the color key to determine whether you select a silly question, thoughtful question, or a short activity.
- ✅ The facilitator reveals the challenge and team members must answer a question or complete the activity before moving on to the next item.
Be prepared for some fun, giggles, and even some deep thinking. You can even customize the template to create your own Team Challenge Bowl tailored for your team.
FOR THE WALLET
Student Loans Are Back
Let’s get filled in on what’s happening with Student Loan Repayment…
Student loan payments officially resume on Sunday after being paused for over three years during the pandemic.
Despite pushback from advocates, the Biden administration is restarting payments for over 28 million borrowers. Some borrowers plan to strike and not repay their loans in protest.
President Biden released a new income-driven repayment plan to ease the transition (SAVE), but interest will still accrue and credit scores may take a hit.
Biden’s broad student debt forgiveness plan remains blocked in court. Meanwhile, a government shutdown could disrupt the repayment restart.
The administration is also working on more targeted relief through a lengthy regulatory process. With repayments restarting right before the 2024 election, student debt will remain a major political issue.
Sooo, what does that mean?
Let AOC to break it down for you with her 6 part video breakdown here:
- Part 1: INTRO
- Part 2: HOW DID WE GET HERE?
- Part 3: YOU COULD BE ELIGIBLE FOR LOAN CANCELLATION *NOW* AND NOT KNOW IT
- Part 4: ELIMINATING/REDUCING YOUR STUDENT LOAN PAYMENT WITH THE NEW SAVE PROGRAM
- Part 5: WHAT HAPPENS IF I DON’T PAY AND HOW DO YOU EVEN START?
- Part 6: WHAT TO DO IF YOUR LOAN SERVICER IS MISHANDLING YOUR ACCOUNT
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